In my previous post I very briefly touched upon how to ask a question of Tarot cards and I realised after I had written it that I’d only explained one aspect of how to construct the ideal question, when in fact there are two. So what should the second half of the question be?
Ready for a flashback?
Previously, on Rabbit Moon Tarot…
When wording any query (regardless of the size of the spread), take care to ‘own’ the question by taking responsibility for the situation. For example, asking – “why doesn’t s/he love me as much as I love her/him?” - is bad; but “what can I do to improve our relationship?” Is good. “Why won’t my boss promote me?” = bad; “How can I improve my performance at work?” = good. You’ll notice the ‘bad’ queries put all the power into someone else’s hands, and usually casts the querent as a victim; however, the ‘good’ query puts the querent firmly in control and gives them the power to change their life. Much better, don’t you think?
So! The first half of the perfect question is owning not only your responsibility for how things are right now, but also your power to change the situation for the better.
The second half: desire
But what’s missing? Something still doesn’t feel right, the question is as incomplete as a fairy tale that consists of “Once upon a time…something-something… happily ever after!”
So let’s think about it in practical terms for a moment: if you were to hire a decorator to transform your home, you wouldn’t just tell them: “Make the place look different!” because that’s how you’d end up with a 90′s Changing Rooms-esque monstrosity. No, you would probably have done your research. You’d hire the decorator, walk them around the place and explain exactly what you wanted. If you actually did decide to change your home, the timeline of your decision would probably look like this: You’re bored of your home, you know how you’d like it to be, you hired the decorator to make your dreams happen.
…I’ve lost you a bit, haven’t I? I’ve dragged this decorator analogy out a bit far, I know. So let me put it back into Tarot terms:
- Something is lacking in your life
- You know how you would like your life to be
- You go to a Tarot reader (or you pick up your deck) to get some insight.
And that’s the second half of the question: desire.
Asking that (laboured) decorator (analogy) “How can I improve my home?” does take responsibility for your home being a bit lacklustre; however, “How can I improve my home so that it looks more like the set of Casablanca?” Not only takes responsibility for your décor ennui, but it also states your desired outcome.
The Formula for the Ideal Question
Responsibility + desire = the ideal question.
Examples
“How can I improve my relationship with my spouse so that our relationship will be more affectionate?”
How can I improve the relationship = responsibility; be more affectionate = the desired outcome.
“What should I do to attract more supportive friends into my life?”
What should I do to attract = responsibility; supportive friends = the desired outcome.
“How should I go self-employed so that I can set my own hours?”
How should I go self employed = responsibility; set my own hours = desired outcome.
The more specific you can be with your question, the better your results. You know what you want, so be honest and be bold! You have every right to live the life of your dreams and with Tarot on your side, you’ll move towards your goals with much stronger steps.
